Gerry Kay Gray

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January 16, 1943 ~ June 11, 2024

Born in: Enid, Oklahoma
Resided in: Arlington, Texas

It is with heavy hearts and teary eyes that we announce the passing of Gerry Kay Gray, 81, who left us peacefully, surrounded and comforted by her family, on June 11 in Arlington, Texas.

Gerry was born on January 16, 1943, in Enid, Oklahoma, to William (Bill) and Mildred (Sally) Atkins. She graduated from Enid High School in 1961 and earned both her bachelor’s degree in 1965 and her master’s degree in 1967 in education from Phillips University in Enid, OK. She married her college sweetheart, David Gray, on December 19, 1964.

In Enid, Gerry began her teaching career with second grade at Jackson Elementary. She went on to teach at various schools across Enid. In her free time, with friends, she formed the Melody Makers at FUMC Enid, performing music across northern Oklahoma and even singing at the Annual Conference.

In 1981, Gerry and David moved to Arlington, TX. Gerry became heavily involved at FUMC Arlington, eventually becoming the children’s choir director, and retiring after over 20 years. She also taught kindergarten at the church for nine years. During those years, she played piano for many services, events, performances, and choir trips. Gerry had a true passion for music and sharing it with others.

Gerry wore many hats and wore them all with pride and passion. She gave generously of her time and talents, always available for those in need and tirelessly ensuring everyone was cared for. She loved to entertain and never missed a chance to host a party or have friends over to play cards or Scrabble. She had a true knack for hospitality.

She was a loving mother of three. She always managed to make time for every baseball game, cheerleading event, wrestling match, and pep rally. She also passed on her passion for education, as her children pursued higher education. Into adulthood, she supported her children in all their endeavors. She was also the very best mother-in-law to their spouses.

In her later years, Gerry proved to be a champion grandma and even great grandma. Her house was always a welcoming place for her grandchildren and their friends. Thousands of hours were joyfully spent playing cards, bingo, foosball, and reading. She always kept the candy jar full. Most importantly, every child she encountered knew they were loved.

Gerry touched many lives, and she will be truly missed by many. She is survived by her loving husband of 59 years, David; her sister Betty; her three children and their spouses: Steve and Shaela Gray of Arlington, TX, Toni and Danny Lucero of Amarillo, TX, and Tyler and Lauren Gray of Denver, CO; her grandchildren: Jordan, Bailey, Peri, Kacie, Riley, Brooklyn, Kellen, and Elias; and her great-grandson, Imani. She is also survived by all the lives she touched along the way, too numerous to list.

In lieu of flowers, memorials may be made to the First United Methodist Church Children’s Music Ministry. This memorial fund honors Gerry’s many years of dedication to exposing children to music at First United Methodist. Memorial donations can be made by check mailed to First United Methodist Church, 313 N. Center St., Arlington, TX or by using the link below. Include “Children’s Music Ministry in memory of Gerry Gray” in the memo.


Memorial Service: June 22, 2024 2:00 pm - 3:00 pm

First United Methodist Church - Arlington
313 N. Center
Arlington, TX 76011


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The family greatly appreciates donations made to these charities in Gerry Kay Gray 's name.

First United Methodist Church

313 North Center Street



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Memories Timeline


  1. We raised our girls with Gerry at First Methodist – she was all you could hope for in your village! The children’s music ministry was such an important part of their upbringing and Gerry was a big part of that! She loved everyone’s children as her own, and her kids were pretty special!! She lived and loved big, and we are so grateful we were in her path!!! Blessings to her family!!

  2. We were introduced to Dave and Gerry through our daughters, Toni and Andrea, over 40 years ago. We had such fun times together as couples, especially ringing in each New Year with them for many, many years. Gerry’s good nature and loving personality made her a friend to everyone she met. I always loved her sense of humor and enjoyed so many conversations with her throughout the years. She was a special lady and dear friend, and I am blessed to have had her in my life.

  3. Our oldest son Bryant played for “Coach Gray,” so we moms and dads spent many happy hours together as we cheered from the bleachers, helped organize trips and concession stands, and enjoyed our team’s success (David was a fine coach).
    To this day I recall how cheerful and kind Gerry was—under any circumstances. She remains in my mind a beautiful role model for grace and generosity of spirit.
    Our family sends its heartfelt condolences to all who loved Gerry.

  4. David and Gerry were such dear friends and we made lots of memories together when they lived in Enid, Ok. We shared our love of the Lord together in Bible Study and played many games of tennis together. And I so loved being a part of the Melody Makers and treasuring the beauty of Gerry’s gift of playing the piano for us. Priceless memories. I know that Gerry’s caring spirit will be missed by many. Rest in peace my dear friend. ✝️❤️

  5. Dearest Toni, along with your entire family, what a blessing your mom has been to your family and friends. We spent many “bleacher” hours together when you girls were in high school. Enjoying it all. Always a smiling, friendly face to find in the crowd. My heart breaks for you. I hope in time the pain of her loss will be replaced by all the happy memories. Sending much love your way.

  6. CandleImageGerry was a very bright light in our lives on a weekly basis when we walked through the doors at FUMC. She always made each child feel special and Taylor loved to spend time with her in children’s choir. She also had a smile for me and some cute story that made me giggle. Usually something cute or funny a child said or did that she wanted to share. Hugs and prayers go out to you all. Wish we didn’t live 1,000 miles away so I could hug you all. 💜💜💜

  7. Gerry was the Sweetheart of The Gridiron Club of Phillips University in the early 1960s. She served with lady of grace and dignity. All who knew her would echo this comment. Rest in peace Gerry.

  8. I met Gerry through my son Shawn. He and Gerry’s son Steve were best friends in high school and remain best friends today. Gerry was always very nice and no matter where you saw her she always had time to visit. The Gray’s were like a second family to my son, I appreciated their kindness. Gerry was a great mom figure and just a sweet lady. You will be missed by all, rest in peace Gerry.

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